I keep thinking oh man, I’m so immature. How am I allowed to be an adult.
Then I spend time with teenagers.
And it’s like, wow, okay, yeah. I am an adult. I am so adult. Look at me adulting all over the place.
Someone on Miiverse was having a drawing contest where the guideline was to draw any Smash character you liked in a bikini. Naturally, I couldn’t pass up on the opportunity.
You think you’re better than the cashier at McDonald’s.
The fast food strikes across the country aren’t causing nearly as much conversation as they should be. Everyone was on the Occupy Wall Street bandwagon — where are all of those voices of support now? Why are people so ambivalent toward the low pay at places like McDonald’s and Burger King?
Because you don’t want the fry cook to make as much money as you do.
I literally just had this conversation with an early childhood education teacher who told me that she didn’t know how to feel about increasing fast-food workers’ pay because she didn’t want to be making less than the counterperson at McDonald’s.
THAT was her reaction to the strike. Not “as a teacher, I should be making more money”. It was “someone should be making less than me”.
Capitalism has really done a number on us.
Discussion of cosplay usually concerns the creation of awesome costumes. But some people don’t need to use a single piece of fabric, fiberglass, Wonderflex or EVA foam to create a spectacular look. Such is the case with Alexys Fleming, aka MadeYewLook, a completely self-taught make-up artist who can completely transform herself into anyone or anything using make-up, thoughtful lighting and sometime contact lenses and the occasional homemade headpiece or hat. Each character is so well-realized that some of the photos require a good long stare in order to find Lex’s actual facial features. And some of them are truly terrifying.
MadeYewLook also posts excellent tutorials on both her Facebook page and her YouTube channel. Even if you don’t want to try your hand at personal transformation with makeup, be sure to visit both her Facebook and YouTube accounts simply to check out many more of her incredible cosplay creations.
[via Kotaku Cosplay]
Q:Hi Froggie! Do you believe in the friendzone?
I believe in something I call “unrequited like.” It’s a less profound version of unrequited love. I think this happens to all genders and it can certainly be disappointing.
I’ve been on the planet a bit longer than a lot of my followers and maybe I can pass along a few things I’ve learned.
First, if someone has no interest in you. Move on. It will be hard. It might even suck for a while. But trying to win the affection of someone who doesn’t feel that way about you is a big waste of time. You are just going to cause yourself more pain.
Second, being someone’s friend is not a consolation prize. Friendship is one of the most precious things on earth and should not be discounted into this absurd notion of the “friendzone.”
If you believe in the friendzone you aren’t the “nice guy” you think you are. Women are not objects to be won, and if they reject you, you should respect that. You cannot blame someone for not having feelings for you. It’s like telling someone who doesn’t like brussels sprouts to just start liking them. You cannot magically change their taste buds by saying the right words.
And lastly, if they offer you friendship, do not accept it if you are just going to be resentful. Either truly be their friend and perform your friend duties with all your heart, or move along.
In my opinion, if you think you got friendzone’d, you are no friend.
And unrequited love/like happens to be what the “friendzone” is about, which is a group process, because it requires at least two people regardless of one’s preference for euphemisms or hyper-focusing on one side over the other.
But further, being someone’s friend is not supposed to feel like a consolation prize, but it can. Whether the loss of a potential relationship is “real” or not is a subjective, philosophical, and relative debate about “can you truly lose what you never had,” and it doesn’t have any absolute answer. Nevertheless, people get to feel like they lost something, because, well, they did in some capacity. People on both sides of that moronic “nice guy” debate often get caught up on the loss as something physically won/lost rather than merely gained/not gained, hence the “booby prize” friendship. Ultimately, this situation is not physical, it’s emotional, specifically, that there is now an imbalance of feelings caused by two people being at different levels in the relationship (side note, that someone is on a “higher level” does not mean “superiority over lower levels” in this context).
Again, people get to feel whatever they damn well please, and whatever douche that tells someone they can’t feel a certain way or “you’re a ‘Nice Guy’” needs to rethink a few things and should seriously consider seeing a therapist. How people express emotions, however, is what needs focus. If a person feels taken advantage of, leaving is the best option. Such feelings are already in the direction of resentment, and that’s a route that hurts everyone involved. In other words, if you are the person who developed feelings (regardless of your sex), and the other person (regardless of their sex) is unwilling to try a relationship in a higher level (rejection), you have all the power. You are the one who gets to decide if the friendship continues or not. And while the future is unwritten, feelings on both sides can chance, the romantic door has been closed at this juncture (btw, bravo to you for having the courage to take a chance and release yourself from the false comfort of not knowing “yes” or “no”). And since you developed feelings, it’s completely your choice if you want to continue the friendship knowing how you feel with a “no” in your hands. Leaving doesn’t automatically make you a “bad friend” just like not having feelings for you doesn’t automatically make the other person a “bad friend.” It makes you both people, so the only thing to do is to work toward a positive resolution, which might be the dissolution of the friendship. They don’t deserve over-persistence and resentment any more than you deserve resentment and false hope.
WHY DO PEOPLE CALL IT FUCK, MARRY, KILL WHEN THEY COULD CALL IT BED, WED, BEHEAD
easy there henry
whos henry what thef uck?
*faint laughter from Britian*
*history teachers crying*
“I like fangirls how I like my coffee. I hate coffee.” Three days after being spotted on a T-shrt for sale at WonderCon, this idiotic slogan is still making waves in the geek community.
Why? Well, for one thing, it seems like a perfect example of the hostile environment women have to deal with when they attend conventions. However, the T-shirt’s manufacturer, Tankhead Custom Tees, has just come forward to explain why the shirt isn’t sexist.
“the fangirl/fanboy shirts can best be explained like this: fangirls/boys =/= fans. Fans are people who like and genuinely respect a fandom, and it’s creators. Fangirls/boys are like those creepy fedora wearing neckbearded bronies, or hetalia fanfiction shippers, who make us all collectively cringe in pain at what they do to the things we love.
No one should ever defend these kinds of people. Seriously, they make the rest of us look bad.”
So, just to be clear here, the shirt isn’t insulting toward all women, just the ones who are the wrong kind of fan. And that’s totally not a gendered insult because bronies (i.e. male fans of a media source that’s traditionally aimed at girls) are repulsive as well. Right?
The idea that it’s OK to be disgusted by certain types of fan is pretty widespread in geek culture, and it’s ridiculous to suggest that this habit isn’t connected to sexist prejudice. In the nonsensical social strata of geekdom, “serious” sci-fi literature fans are somewhere at the top, Trekkies and comic book nerds are somewhere around the middle, and anything women are interested in is invariably right down at the bottom. Popular examples: Supernatural, YA novels with female protagonists, fanfiction, shoujo anime, and pretty much anything that’s popular on Tumblr.
It’s no coincidence that “fangirl” is most commonly used to describe women who read and write fanfiction. By the logic of people who use fangirl as a pejorative term, fans who spend hours reading and collecting superhero comics are at the cool, respectable end of the geek scale, while “fangirls” who write tens of thousands of words of superhero fanfic are embarrassing weirdos. In other words, if you conform to the old-fashioned, male-dominated form of fandom then you’re fine, but if you prefer to join the subculture that was primarily founded on the work of female fans, then it’s acceptable to publicly mock you at an event like WonderCon.
Good read, but I’ve never heard “fangirl” used to specifically denote a female fans obsesses with reading/writing fanfiction (fanfic, regardless of the writer’s sex, is it’s own realm of nope). Anyway, I admittedly did drop off the Supernatural boat for awhile shortly after coming to tumblr and being retinally assaulted by all the “OMG (male character name) is SOO HAWT” comments and gifs that came across my dash coupled with all the ads for the show mirroring that exact mentality. It tainted the show to seeming less about the characters and story and more about how hot Sam, Dean, and Cass were. In essence, it seemed like a Bay Watch knockoff sans beach, avec ghosts. And before you think “then why didn’t you just unfollow those blogs,” some of the worst where friends’ blogs. Since the shows popularity has had time to cool, and I switched to Netflix over TV, I’ve gone back and loved just about every moment, but I still really don’t see how fictional character worship is meaningfully different than any other form of problematic obsession linked to models, musicians, actors, pornstars, etc beyond that stalking pertains only to real, live people. While Dean and Sam aren’t real people, blabbering on about how hot Cindy Crawford is happens to be just as obnoxious. Simply, what you see in Cindy’s photos is a synthetic creation, just as synthetic as Sam and Dean, and no amount of “behind the scenes” info makes those people/characters any closer to your reality.
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